Q: People were surveyed about the worst ways to start a conversation on dating apps. What was voted the least favorite first message?…What is #1?

 A: “Hey” or “Hi” . . . 78% of users say they don’t like that.  

2.  “You up?” . . . 72%

3.  “How are you?” . . . 65%

4.  Cheesy pickup lines, like:  “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” . . . 59%

5.  “Hey beautiful” or “hey handsome” . . . 54%

6.  Starting off with, “I usually never message first, but” . . . 48%

7.  “What are you up to?” . . . 43%

8.  “You free tonight?” . . . 41%

9.  “You remind me of my ex” . . . 40%

10.  “Tell me why we should date” . . . 39%

Some others that made the list include:

“You’re the man (or woman) of my dreams.”

“Why are you single?”  Or, “How long have you been single?”

“You look like trouble.”

“I bet you get a lot of messages.”

“I’d treat you right”

And “we’d have beautiful children.” 

An expert says the keys are:  Adding personality to your messages . . . sharing details about your life while asking a match about theirs . . . and being unique to stand out, both in the topics you talk about AND your tone. 

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